This is the other side of the coin to my previous post, where we delved into the many reasons why a male partner should be very jealous of his wife’s or girlfriend’s doctor. Here, we will examine these same dynamics from the woman’s point of view!
Women claim to have a multitude of reasons why they can remain totally comfortable with the idea of having to undress for a male doctor and allow him not only to see her private parts but put his fingers on or inside them as well…
Even though if any other man tried to do the same, she would be appalled and he would likely be arrested
In other words, they claim to be well justified in maintaining this double standard – one that they won’t even allow their own husband or boyfriend to share.
Well then, let’s say you’ve just returned home from your appointment with your male gynecologist – and your partner asks: “So, honey, doesn’t it embarrass you to have to take off your clothes, put your feet up in those stirrups, spread your legs, and let that guy stick his fingers inside you? I mean, whenever I try to do something similar – especially with that incredible ass and tight little rectum of yours – you act offended and tell me it’s too embarrassing or even disgusting.”
To which you will probably fire back with something like:
“Oh, honey, he’s a doctor, for God’s sake! It doesn’t mean anything to him. He’s only interested in the medical condition of my body. It’s not like he’s getting off on it or anything! I mean, he’s a professional! He’s helping me! Besides, he’s done these exams a gazillion times!”
To which your informed and enlightened male partner (one who has read these posts) might possibly fire back with any or all of the following:
1: “Honey, Maybe You Are Embarrassed Even Though You Insist You’re Not.”
He’ll go on to say, “Many women are, in fact, very embarrassed to allow a medical professional to do all those things to her. But she often won’t admit it because society has taught her that this is different and that her doctor’s title makes it all okay. The title, in other words, overrides the double standard.”
2: “Honey, He’s a Guy!”
“It doesn’t matter how many women he’s examined, where he went to school, or what kind of paper he has hanging on his wall. If he’s straight and has a dick, trust me, honey: He is very likely “enjoying” having his hands all over and inside you! I’m not implying that he’s behaving inappropriately toward you (and he’d damned well better not be!). I’m merely speculating about what’s possibly going on inside his head. I mean, do you seriously believe the guy shows up for work, don’s a white coat, and suddenly stops being a guy? Do you think his libido just shuts right down simply because he’s ‘working’?
“As for the bit about the doctor being a “trained professional” who isn’t the least bit interested in you on a sexual level – well, I’m sure there are many male doctors out there who experience no pleasure whatsoever as they slide their fingers inside their lady patient’s nether regions. I’m also sure there are many more for whom this is somewhat true – maybe they try their best to focus only on the medical stuff and not your mouthwatering curves…but fail. Oh, they’ll hide it, of course. But deep down, those male tinglings are there. As for the rest of them…come on, seriously? No arousal whatsoever? Puh-leez! Let’s not be naïve here!
“Sweetie, think about it: He squeezes your breasts and nipples, right? He stares at your gaping pussy and spreads it wide open with a speculum, right? He even slides his fingers up inside you. Now, let me ask you: What the hell kind of a guy would derive zero pleasure from that, regardless of how ‘honorable’ their intentions are or how many times they’ve done it before? That would be like saying, I’ve had sex so many times, I don’t even like it anymore.
“Seriously? The bottom line is that guys generally get off seeing and touching naked women—regardless of their choice of college or profession. They might not say it, and they’ll rarely act upon it. But deep down…it’s there. Trust me…I’m a guy…I know this shit.”
3: “Sweetie, It’s Not Just About Your Body.”
“Even if—even if—you’re comfortable with the idea of a medical professional seeing and touching your private goodies, think about this: There is every possibility that his title affords him certain ‘privileges’ and access that other guys don’t have. Think about it: You take your clothes off when he “orders” you to. You spread your legs for him when he tells you to. You even let him put his fingers inside your pussy and even your ass just because he ‘needs’ to.
“Now, this guy knows perfectly well you wouldn’t let any other guy do those things – in some cases, like with your ass, not even me. He knows he’s entitled, and many guys get off on that feeling of power, prestige, and entitlement. I mean, you’re lying there in those stirrups, totally submissive. And he has total power and domination over you that perhaps no other guy has. Well, many guys get off on that. Doesn’t that bother you?”
- “Honey, Does the Whole ‘He’s a Doctor’ Thing Even Matter?”
“I mean, if his being ‘a doctor’ makes it okay, then is it okay for a doctor in any other profession to do it? Would you let a Doctor of Engineering or a Doctor of Psychology feel around inside you? No, then let’s scratch the ‘doctor’ rationalization.
“The same goes for the ‘he’s helping me’ rationalization. If a fireman (or anyone else) saved your life and then needed to ‘check’ you intimately for burns or whatever, would that make it okay? No? Well, then, I guess we can scratch that one, too.
“But here’s the biggie:
“What if the person examining you isn’t even a doctor? Is that okay? What if it’s just a physician’s assistant feeling you up? Or a male nurse? Or an x-ray technician? And how about this one: What if a medical student was allowed those same privileges? We’re not even talking about a doctor here…or a medical professional at all! More likely, it’s some twenty-two-year-old college dude! Are you comfortable with that?”
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The bottom line, ladies, is that you have every right and every reason to be very embarrassed the next time a male medical professional squeezes your naked breasts and nipples, then slides his fingers into your vagina and rectum! Because, in the end, he’s still a guy who’s seeing and feeling up a naked woman. And whether he’s getting off on it sexually or through a feeling of entitlement or a male-dominator power trip, it has to be causing you more than a little embarrassment! It just has to be!
And if it does…
Just do what I do: Play the exhibitionist’s game! Feel the embarrassment intensely…and just let yourself get off on it! It might take some practice, but you’ll get there!
And then, when your loving husband or partner asks for some of the same privileges as your doctor – or even if he simply asks to sit in on your next exam (assuming her doctor allows him in the exam room) you can say, “Oh, honey, I’d be so embarrassed…and therefore…let’s do it!”
I welcome your feedback on this inherently debatable topic. But before you respond, let me offer up one final and very important point. Nothing in this post should be construed as being accusatory toward doctors! Unless certain doctors are, in fact, breaking the law, behaving unethically, or acting in an unprofessional manner, then all is well regardless of what may or may not be running around in his head (or loins). In any case, never forget that you have every right and every reason to allow those titillating and tantalizing tingles of embarrassment to tingle their way throughout your body!
Meanwhile, check out the following series for oodles of fictional examples of tortured husbands, humiliated wives, and smug doctors:
And from my good friend (and mentor) Maggie Maloney:
- The Hotwife Learns, Her Husband Squirms
Toodleoo till next time!
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